We are surrounded by people schooling us about the “universe” and “manifesting” all the things that we want, and you know that for most of us it’s money. Well, the question is, how do you manifest the things you really want? Truth be told, we can only ask and expect to receive. Please believe that you will have to roll up your sleeves and put some work in but the first step to manifesting is to know exactly what you want, ask for it and believe that you already have it in your possession. The Bible taught us that faith without works is dead so the disclaimer here is to not forget to put in your work. Work is something you cannot escape.
After the realization that you must put in work, please remember when asking for what it is that you desire from God or the Universe, please affirm your ask with the simple phrase “I Am.” The “I Am” places you in the present tense and it is how you should begin writing your goal/s. Remain in the present and think of your “I Am” as a command of sorts. You are commanding the things that you want but with humility and gratitude. You can ask for success with “I will be successful.” You command it with “I am successful.”
If nothing else, start your day with your “I Am” affirmations. Create affirmations that describe the you that you would like to become. Start with “I am health. I am abundance. I am wealth. I am happiness.” This is a mantra that can trigger the subconscious and lead to your reality if you are not ready there.
How do you start your day? Do you have affirmations that you’ve created to set the tone for your day?
When most people think of Jamaica, they often think of pristine blue beaches and easy going vibes. They are right. You get all of this and then some when you visit but my most recent trip to Jamaica was not one where I managed many beach trips, rather I was mostly in Jamaica’s big city, Kingston. This was a real first time for me and did not know where to go or what to expect. Well, Kingston did not fail. What do you do in Jamaica when you are not at the beach? Well, learn about it’s history and eat ice cream at Devon House of course.
If you are in Jamaica and you love visiting Devon House, drop me a picture or a line in the comments and tell me about your experience. If you plan on visiting the land of wood and water then hop over to Kingston and get a patty and ice-cream for me please 🙂
Everyday is a new day that is provided to us to start over, to start new. Just as how you hit your phone’s “reset” button, you can hit your very own life reset button on any given new day. If you are thrown off today, don’t beat yourself up, start over again tomorrow. The sun rises and sets on a daily basis, allow yourself to do the same.
How do we do that? Start with establishing your rituals to win and practice doing them daily. Change the things that you are saying to yourself. Switch off the negative and self deprecating words that you tell yourself aloud or in your head. Change the way you speak to yourself and the ones you love. Use words that uplift and creates feeling of self worth. Know that you are created to be great and treat yourself in loving ways. While you are at it, change your environment as often as you can. Take opportunities to see new things and speak to new people.
Change your environment and then work on changing your emotions. Remind yourself of all of the adversity that you’ve overcome and give thanks for the resilience that takes you through tough times. Meditate and pray your way to settling those feelings of fear and self depreciation. Through self introspection, figure out what you need to cut and keep from your life in order to help propel you forward and then act. Action is the catalyst that creates the change.
How To Create Lasting Change
1) Use Words
Speak favor and life into yourself with your words. Practice speaking affirmations daily as well as meditation and prayer. Say what you want and make it plain. The universe and God are looking to deliver.
2) Use Images
What type of images are you feeding yourself daily? Are you surrounding yourself with images of beauty and ones that uplift or doom and gloom. What do you see when you scroll your IG or Facebook feed? Does it inspire you or spark envy and jealousy. Do the images make you feel good? Do they make you feel like you have a promising future? If no, change them and change those images quickly. What we see everyday matters. It becomes our reality.
3) Assess Emotions
Your emotions are running your life. It could also ruining your life. This is why it’s important to pause, pray and meditate. Reaction causes too much impact to others and frankly, you relinquish your power when you simply react to a negative stimulus. Pause. Then decide if you will react or simply not give the energy to the negative source that you are faced with. Also realize that your emotions may be false . Everything you think and feel is not always right. As Myleik says, feelings are not always facts. Assess your feelings and check yourself. Are your feelings facts or something created by you to answer an unknown feeling or question. Most importantly, you must change the way you think in order to change the way you make decisions. Have your decisions taken you to where you want to be in life? Yes, you are on the right track. No, change the way you think. Winning thoughts help you make winning decisions.
4) Switch Environment
Change your environment. The world is big, beautiful and bright. Go out and embrace a new place. See new sights. Speak to new people. Please, don’t wait for your vacation to do this either. You don’t have to wait until you are given a week or two to hop on an airplane or a cruise ship to immerse yourself in a new place. Many of us are comfortable staying in our own neighborhood or town and rarely venture off to the next neighborhood or adjacent town. Hop in your car or take the train an hour over to a new place. Spend the night, walk the Main Street and have dinner in a restaurant trying a cuisine style you’ve never had before. Stumble into a museum or an antique shop and browse.
5) Gain Experiences
Experience new things. Do something for the first time. When was the last time you did something for the first time? It does not have to be big. Do something simple but do it for the very first time. Walk a new street, try a new food, cook with a new spice.
Change your narrative and watch your life change for the better.
Living in NYC is great but everyone knows that no other city in the world beats our hectic pace. Every New Yorker knows the best thing about New York is finding accessible places outside of NYC to escape the fast pace of the city.
One of our favorite places to find this respite is Washington DC. It’s a quick $25 MegaBus ride away. Don’t act like you don’t hop on the MegaBus every now and then. I sure do. The great thing about any bus to DC is that it drops you off right in the hub of Downtown. If you drive and feel like doing the 4 or 5 hour drive from NYC to Downtown DC then have at it. Road trip! I like to stop at the rest stops on the highway just because I don’t need a break, I just want to cruise the snack isle and treat myself to Starbucks coffee.
Our recent weekend getaway from NYC brought us to the gorgeous Renaissance Hotel in Downtown Washington, DC. The hotel looks and smells even better than it looks. Weird right, who talks about smells? I do, because this lobby smells like heaven. The rooms and views are breathtaking, friendly service from all hotel staff and a book nook that made me not want to go back to my room. Check out our stay below:
Here is our room at The Renaissance: The bathroom was spacious, clean and there were touches of the history of Washington DC in every section of the room. No stones were left unturned.
As a Speech Therapist, I always get questions from friends and family who are parents asking for tips on how to help improve their child’s language. Who remembers worrying when your child wasn’t using their words or not using as many words as their same age peers? We’ve all been there.
To help alleviate that worry, I’ve compiled the most useful information that I’ve acquired over the years in an easy- to-read guide for parents and caregivers to help improve the language of toddlers and small children. I’m super excited to share the information in my e-book titled, “Let’s Play: How to Elicit Language from Small Children” because language is really best taught to small children through play and routines. The true essence of learning comes from children feeling safety and love in their daily routine, including play.
The French Quarter in the city of New Orleans is like no other place in America. You feel like you have been transported back into time when you walk the streets of the French Quarter. The beautiful French inspired buildings with their wooden shutters and iron antique workings allows for a feel that you can get nowhere else. The Quarters is best travelled by foot so you get the chance to see every building and every corner to establish your favorite street all on your very own.
Now, this is a hotel located on Canal Street, a very big and busy street in New Orleans. The hotel is situated right outside of the French Quarter but you can easily walk to the action or jump on the Canal Street Streetcar that stops right outside of the hotel’s doors. The hotel is historic but you don’t feel like it is because everything about this property is modern and luxe. The guest room is very spacious. The staff, friendly and helpful. Plus, there is spa water waiting for you at the hotel’s entrance and by their rooftop pool. It’s necessary for the New Orleans Summer heat.
New Orleans Eats: There are many historic restaurants and places where you must eat when visiting New Orleans and the French Quarter so you will need more than a day to do that. This is an eating town y’all! We decided to pay a visit to Antoine’s Restaurant for their famous lunch spacial. The lunch costs the same as the year we are in, 2019 or $20.19, and the cocktail special is a quarter. Oh yes!
Sights:The most comprehensive list of “Things to Do” that I found was on the official website for travel to New Orleans, www.neworleans.com. The Visit New Orleans IG is also great. We had limited time so we took a ride on the famous St. Charles Streetcar to visit the “Garden District.” It is called The Garden District for a reason. There are trees and greenery everywhere and one house is more magnificent than the other. We then traveled back to the French Quarter just to stroll her famous streets and marvel at the architecture. We paid a visit to Jackson Square to visit the St. Louis Cathedral, my favorite building in the French Quarter.
I happened to stumble on Rachel Roy’s style book titled, “Design Your Life” at a local store and contemplated if I wanted to buy the book (the sale price was really a steal). It has been some time since I’ve purchased a “style” book. I used to love the “How To” and “Style” books and magazines when I was in High School but not really interested in the genre now as an adult. Well, I may have to revisit my High School interests because this book was really good! I especially enjoyed the beginning of the book where Roy talks about visualizing and manifesting the life you want by first starting where you are with what you have. This is a lesson that everyone needs to be reminded of at every stage in life.
After reading the chapter, “Comfortably Cool”, I decided I would construct a post using Roy’s own words about everyday dress and styling because I think this is an area that many women struggle to master. These these are Roy’s own words of advice for everyday dress:
“When you go out into the world, I’m a firm believer that it’s important to present the sharpest, brightest, best version of yourself- whether you’re shopping for groceries or giving a career changing presentation.”
“It doesn’t matter if you’re taking your kids to the playground or working on deadline behind a desk…The truth of the matter is, that’s a difficult job to undertake in worn out stretch pant’s and your lover’s sweatshirts. If you truly aspire to be successful in all areas of your life, be it business, relationships, motherhood, or friendships, it’s important to look and feel the part of a strong, loving, powerful, organized woman.”
“Hitting that stride can be easier than you think.”
The Guide to Casual Chic
“Toss the tracksuit and put on a midi dress and leggings. The dress I choose is always made from a relaxed fabric with some stretch…Choose a dress that has buttons that run the length of the dress, undo them from the upper leg to create a high slit. This gives the illusion of showing leg, allowing for a youthful feel.”
“Bye bye hoodie and hello leather or faux leather motorcycle jacket. A leather motorcycle jacket is easily thrown over dresses or trousers alike.”
Ditch the flip flops for a laceless slip on sneaker. “They work seamlessly for a polished look even though you’re wearing sneakers.”
Keep it hands for with a cross-body bag or a giant tote. However, backpacks are a timeless solution to the hands free problem.
As I sat in the living room facing the bay window at around the time when the sun begins to set, it was only then that I realized that this room that I inhabited always has the best light in the house.
There are times, right before the sun sets, when the sun shines in so intensely that you may feel the heat radiating and your eyes strain to see the television from any angle because of the bright glare that the sun gives off. I don’t fight the heat and glare. I make it my business to bask in it for this really is the most sublime time of day.
Do you see the pajamas I’m wearing in these pictures? They seem like no big deal, only pajamas, but in reality they signify me making a very small goal and grabbing hold of it in a very short period of time.
I made a goal of purging my lounge wear and night wear drawer and ridding it of all of the old tattered tee shirts and tights that I normally lounged around the house in and wore to bed. I tossed most all of it before I went out to buy matching pajamas and lounge wear. Now, I have to think of expense. I didn’t want to just go out and spend a bunch of cash on new pajamas and lounge wear so I had to get creative.
The universe works in an insane way because whatever we LOOK for we tend to FIND. I went into Target and wasn’t looking for lounge wear but saw great pieces on sale. I picked up a top and pants. I went into Primark on a separate date and saw an enormous selection of the prettiest pajamas at a great price normally but even better prices on sale. I once again hit the sales rack and picked up a few pieces. Over the course of under 3 months, I was able to pick up sale pieces at Primark and able to add at least 4 sets to my new wardrobe for well under 50 dollars.
Lesson. The goals that you set, no matter how small, are important in making your life better. If it makes your life better to take care of your health, then eat better and exercise. Do a little bit everyday. If you need to look better, find pieces that look great on you and look for those pieces when your favorite store has a sale. The small goals matter. They train your brain in knowing that you can do whatever you put your mind and actions to. You don’t just think about it to manifest it, you have to do the things necessary to accomplish goals, big or small.
The term “vehicle” is defined as a thing used to express, embody, or fulfill something. In the game of success and gaining financial freedom, finding the right vehicle is the most important component in moving towards that goal. The right vehicle moves you towards that success quicker and in a more efficient way. Face it, you may want to gain the world and everything in it but without the right knowledge and vehicle, it won’t happen. Quite frankly, you can have all the knowledge, know all the things but if you invest your time in a business or an industry that no one cares about or have no need for them your vehicle is wrong and you cannot move towards attaining your goals.
Would you consider opening a Blockbuster video store today? Blockbusters were extremely successful all through the 1990s, for sure people still need Blockbuster video stores today right? Wrong. Blockbuster video might have been the right vehicle in 1990 but in 2019, there is no one who needs the services of a Blockbuster Video. The vehicle is not necessary nor is it viable in 2019. You wouldn’t choose it.
Be just as vigilant when you are choosing a vehicle today. What is the projection for the service? Will people need the services for the vehicle you are choosing now in 10 years? Read about industry trends and study the area that you want to make an investment in for it is vital to your overall success and longevity.