Goals – TamaraLoves

When I use the term “addiction”, I am not using it in the traditional sense of the word. I am not referring to a drug or alcohol addiction. Those addictions are very much in your face and society knows the ills of those addictions. We have centers and rehab clinics for those addictions. We have a societal understanding of them. The addictions that I am referring to are addictions that can also destroy hopes and dreams but are not really recognized and admonished by society. They are:

The Addiction to the Opinion of Others.

The Addiction to the Past.

The Addiction to Worry.

The Addiction to Drama.

Do these addictions sound familiar? If they do then fear not. They are familiar to most of us. It is what makes us human but please believe that we cannot hold on to these addictions if you plan to move on and be a fluid (constantly changing) person.

The first step in conquering these addictions is being honest with yourself and really own up to the addiction. Which is the addiction that sets you back the most? Meaning, which one of these addictions is causing you to be stagnant and not make the progress that you want to make in relationships, career and health? I’ll own up to being addicted to the past and in a deep relationship with the addiction to worry. I’m working on releasing them both. I am always telling myself that things work themselves out and Kendrick reminds me that, “we gon be alright.” The past, well, I want to leave it all right there; In the past. I don’t want to constantly dredge up old stuff in my relationship. We are getting older and I want to enjoy the relationship that I am in and stay in the moment. The older I get the more I realize that the moments are fleeting. I want a life that belongs to the ages.

brownskin — Because I am always chasing the sun and I see it as a good addiction. I’m also addicted to her and him.

2016 is upon us and plenty of resolutions are being made or goals being hashed but are you one of the people making new plans or are you steady on the path that you have already forged in 2015? There is something to be said for starting fresh but there are plenty of people who are on track and working towards accomplishing and building on the goals from 2015. If you are on track, there are methods that can be used to accomplish bigger and better goals. It is the time to make some plans that scare you. They say if your dreams don’t scare you then they aren’t big enough.

If you find that you are stuck and not on track then these are some ways that you can release your inner “Go Getter“:

Have No Fear. Fear is the top reason why we don’t pursuit the things that we want to do whether it be business or pleasure. Be freaking fearless. I know, easier said than done. The truth is you are going to fail and you are going to succeed but many times we will experience more failure than success. Failing is perfectly fine. The key to failing is learning from our failures. Failure can teach us our greatest lessons.
Belong to a Tribe. You have to belong to a group of people who are like minded and are also aspiring to similar goals. A support system is nice but the system may not know how to advise you or help you get to next steps. Your tribe, or people who are pursuing similar goals will also be in the process. Some people will be behind you (you can mentor them) and some will me miles ahead of you (they will mentor you).
Educate Yourself. This really is the information age and you can find several ways in order to educate yourself. There are free podcasts, websites and several inspirational folks to follow on social media. You can splurge on webinars and seminars where you get more individualized attention and might have specific concerns and questions answered by industry leaders. Whatever field you are in requires you staying on top of your game and that only comes through staying abreast of the information required for you to win.
Nourish Your Body. Stay healthy with a proper diet and exercise. You cannot accomplish very much if you are not at your optimal best and this is both mental and physical. Every successful person devotes time to bettering their well being and so should you. Your income does not have to determine your health.

So, where are you in the process? Are you starting fresh or forging ahead on the accomplishments from 2015?

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