How are Your Habits Affecting Your Success?

The word habit is defined as a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up. I believe that when we hear that someone has a “habit” we often gravitate to thinking in the negative. We tend to think of obsessive drinking, smoking, lying, etc. Stuff the great books advises us not to partake in. The reality is that just as there are good habits, there are also bad habits.

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The Red Door. Historically, it is a visible sign that the mortgage has been paid off by a homeowner. A major key to wealth is property ownership.

Lying is a habit. Laziness is a habit. Arriving to work, events and appointments late is a habit. Having a short fuse is a habit. Being broke is a habit. Failure is a habit. Not reading books is a habit. Waking up late is a habit. Having a disorganized space is a habit. Those are some of the behaviors that we are used to linking with the word “habit.” They paint a negative picture for the person to which the habit is involved.

On the other hand, there is the flip side or the opposite of the negative behaviors that we don’t normally link with the term “habit.” Being active is a habit. Truthfulness is a habit. Making money is a habit. Success is a habit. Reading is a habit. Waking up early is a habit. Organization is a habit.

Habits are a major indicator of how we function and see ourselves in the world. Create a habit of speaking kind words about yourself and others. Have laser keen focus and wake up with a plan of action on a daily basis. You should rule the day or the day will end up ruling you. Have a clear goal that you are working towards and it makes it easier to plan the day ahead. If you don’t know this already, most successful people have similar habits. We know this because most people who are successful have written about how they have obtained their success. Read books and interviews about people whose success you would like to replicate or whose success resonates best with you. There is a blueprint.

Successful People:

Take risks./ Stick to their decisions./  Set good boundaries./ Give Back./ Work Smart./ Stay healthy and active physically and mentally./ Delegate./ Are always learning./ Stay disciplined./ Practice Patience./ Surround themselves with other successful people./ Talk about ideas, not other people./ Learn from failure./ Show up on time./ Know about what is going on with their business and their money./

Concepts Courtesy of: You are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero

You Cannot Fail

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Never forget what makes you the happiest and who motivates you to be great.

You know the adage, if you could do anything without fear of failure, what would you do? The reality of it is you would think in a state of the “sky’s the limit.” You would have no inhibitions because you would have no fear.  I know, this state of mind is not one that most think is grounded in reality but the truth is that your Kindergarten Teacher was right. You can be whatever you want to be.

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If you desire anything enough then there is a sauce, which isn’t much of a secret because it’s outlined in a million self help books, to making it happen:

  1. Make the commitment to accomplishing your desired goal.
  2. Take whatever action necessary to make it true or to achieve your goal.
  3.  Avoid duplicating any patterns you know from experience that will not work. If it’s broke, fix it. You learn through failure so failure isn’t a negative.   Failure is only a negative if we do not heed it’s lesson.
  4. Adjust your plan when you see that it is not garnering the desired results.
  5. Don’t be afraid to change. Changing course and directions while planning is a part of most of the best plans.

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Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that this will be a breeze. Nothing worth having comes easy. I mean, life teaches us that. My Jamaican granny’s favorite saying is, “if you want good den yuh nose haffi run.” Translated this means that if you want something bad enough then expect to work hard for it. Hard work isn’t always laborious work by the way so do not mistaken the word “hard” for labor. Hard work may be changing habits that stand in your way of gaining success. I find for most people changing habits, including either adding to or taking away from positive or negative behaviors, some of our is the hardest work.

If At First You Don’t Succeed…

We know how that mantra ends. “If at first you don’t succeed, try try again.” Those are words to live by. We won’t always win on the first try. Failure exist as a teaching tool for the next time you attempt a task. You fail and then you try again, only this time implementing the lessons that you’ve learned from failing. I failed today. Am I a failure? Nope. I’ll try again at my task on July 5th only this time implementing what I’ve learned.

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I had a beach day recently and even though the Atlantic Ocean is not my ideal beach it always serves the purpose of helping me recenter. I can feel really big and super important at times but I look at large bodies of water and remember that I am small and there are greater powers outside of myself and whatever drives me.

What drives you and how do you deal with failing?